The Downside to the Sexual Wellness Industry
The global Sexual Wellness market size was valued at a whopping $33 billion in 2022 and is estimated to reach $64 billion by 2031. Sexual wellness as an up-and-coming—even trendy—industry thrives by encouraging the acceptance of our sexuality and pleasure by providing a wide rang of education, research, procedures, and products including condoms and birth control, lubricants, high-to-low end lingerie and exotic costumes, sexy toys and vibrators, herbal supplements, orgasm injections and medical procedures, and much, much more.
Pleasure and a healthy sex life is a human birthright that significantly impacts our overall wellness and day-to-day lives: mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. As an area that has been previously (and presently) labeled as taboo and promoted as sinful, wrong, and perverse one can only imagine how severely the imprint within the topic or act of sex has affected humanity as a whole.
I carry enthusiasm and excitement as I watch, and participate within, the moving of the needle of social and industrial sexual shame—that has circulated our culture for eons—into a movement of liberation and exploration. Yet, I cannot help but notice the aged and rusty claws cloaked as shiny products and procedures inside the industry.
But, shouldn’t this be a victory??
100%! However, the major areas that require our investigation are being completely ignored. It is alarming how no one, even the “experts” or PhDs, is addressing the residue a lifetime of sexual shame, repression, and conditioning has left on the body and psyche of society. Although, sexual wellness is creating waves, the undertones within the movement are wrapped in unhealed and unprocessed trauma. Unfortunately, it is our trauma that is feeding the beast.
Unless we are all participants in actively discussing, owning, dissecting, and releasing our sexual trauma these threads will continue to run and rule our lives. Without it, sexual freedom will cease to exist.
Here are some questions to make my case:
Why are so many women needing lube?
Why are 75% of men coming only three minutes into penetration and prematurely ejaculating?
Why are women numb in their vaginas and not experiencing deep vaginal orgasms?
Why are impotence and erectile disfunction so prominent?
Why are we ALL so dissociated from our sexual organs?
Why are so many women fearful and disgusted by their genitals?
WHY ISN’T ANYONE TALKING ABOUT “WHY”??
By continuing not to ask “why” we stay stagnant and are masking the areas—by desensitizing ourselves and buzzing out with vibrators or bypassing when your body is ready with lubricant—while overriding the signals our body is communicating that needs healing. The biggest piece of misinformation that exists is that we cannot heal our reproductive ailments; “Ohh, it is just a part of aging, which you are victim to, and you will never get it back.” You become a customer when lies like these are spread rather than a sexually empowered being who faces traumas and understands the euphoric level of taking your power back.
Healing makes you the most powerful human being imaginable. Diligence, work, and curiosity, by asking the right questions, will make you the most vibrant sexually expressive person you could ever imagine where YOU are in control of your pleasure and ultimately your life.